Pick up artist guide to online dating
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The one-night stands seemed like a pattern of behavior — which, as his girlfriend, I would want more information on — so I asked him about it directly.
A search online for “dating tips for men” reveals hundreds of these sorts of sites, generally requiring a credit card.
He made more than a few digs at stay-at-home mothers, whom he dismissively referred to as “housewives” and suggested were just lazily spending their husband’s money.
(I called him out on it, given how both he and I were raised by SAHMs.) He even mocked a female journalist once whose opinion he disagreed with, making a snotty remark about how she should stick to worrying about choosing a nail polish color.
In time I started to see, though, how maybe Andy honestly that woman.
Even though at first I found him charming and intelligent, it soon became clear that we could not relate to each other.
I ended things with Andy* after an argument one night when he complained about my pajamas — they weren’t attractive enough to lie around and watch TV in. But I am convinced that his years of being manipulative with women to get what he wanted as a PUA — a phone number, a one-night stand — taught him that the opposite sex was something he could control.
Nope, I’m not making this up: that was really his concern. He freaked out at various points in our relationship when he was fearful of relinquishing control.
But the honest truth is that Andy* was intelligent, witty, good-looking and funny — the complete opposite of the basement dwelling loser that some other feminist bloggers would have you believe all PUAs to be.
Whatever you’re thinking a PUA might look or be like, I bet Andy wouldn’t fit it.
PUA methods vary, but all pickups socially and emotionally manipulate a woman.
Men are taught to engage in certain behaviors to make her feel “safe” in his prescence and even to intentionally insult her (“negging”) to put her off guard.
As we had discussions about our past romances and hookups, I noticed that Andy*’s latter category was almost entirely one-night stands with women he’d met in bars and dance clubs during a certain period of time in his life when he went out every weekend with the same group of friends.