Dating for virgins
Dating for virgins
Gesselman of the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University — asked nearly 5,000 people (ages 18 to 76) if they would consider dating a virgin.Most of the people in the study who’d had sex before reported that they would not date a virgin — but but here’s where it gets really interesting: An even greater number of said they, too, would not date someone who had not previously had sex.
There is no substitute for practice, but having a supportive person to talk over fears with can help a lot.
I am a single, 26 y/o, white, middle-class, very smart, attractive guy.
Most of my life is filled with success, except for one HUGE gap.
You can’t assert yourself when you are worried about keeping other people from rejecting you!
Anyway, I think there is a lot of hope for you and I think your difficulty can be overcome if you are willing to become active and face your fears.
You want your dating partners to like you, obviously, but you don’t need to think badly about yourself if they don’t.
Even if they reject you outright, who really cares?
You say you can’t build up enough energy to date, but the message that is really communicated is that you feel too much like a “dork” to date.
You’re worried that the women you would date would think you are a loser.
Dating someone 18 and inexperienced like me is also quickly becoming, if not already, not possible. If I end up becoming a “40 Year Old Virgin” I will probably end my life because at that point I will have lost my window of opportunity to have a normal family life. There is a passive vibe to your letter, and an undercurrent of fear, and together these two things seem to be making it difficult for you to ask for dates and to build a relationship.
That fear and that passivity will have to be addressed and looked square in the eye if you are to solve this problem of yours.
Some women just want to be pursued, and if you won’t do that they won’t like it.